Is your partner's Tinder profile still active? Are you worried your partner is hiding their Tinder cheating? Read on here to learn how you can uncover the truth.

Suspicious that your partner is on Tinder? Do you have any reasons to believe s/he is cheating on you?

Busting a cheater is not easy, but it can be done. All you need is patience. If your partner is Tinder cheating on you, the signs will be there. According to a 2015 study, 30% of Tinder users are married. Another 12% are in a relationship.

Some are browsing out of curiosity. Others have open relationships. However, a large percentage of users are secretly using the app. Tinder claims that most users register for an account just to meet new people. They either want to build connections or make friends.

Even if this statement were true, we're still talking about tens of thousands of cheaters out there.

Additionally, you may not feel comfortable knowing that your partner is on Tinder. What if s/he meets someone and takes things to the next level?

Before having the "talk," watch out for these signs of Tinder cheating:

S/he's on Tinder Social

The first thing you should do is to join Tinder yourself. That's right! This way, you can activate the Tinder Social feature and start a group.

Think of it as a Meetup group. Basically, it allows you to connect with other people going out in your area. This feature appeals to those who want to spend a night out and take online dating to the next level.

Once you unlock Tinder Social, you'll be able to see all your Facebook friends who are already using the app.

However, there's a catch. Only those who have this feature activated will show up in your feed. If your partner has turned it off, you won’t see them on Tinder.

Luckily, most users don't bother to turn off this feature.

S/he's Constantly Checking the Phone

Is your partner using their smartphone more than usual? Does s/he seem addicted to the phone? Or perhaps s/he wakes up in the middle of the night to check messages?

Let's be real! Unless your partner is running an online business, this behavior is strange. How much time can one spend online without getting bored?

If your partner is constantly checking their phone - especially at odd hours or behind your back, s/he's probably Tinder cheating on you.

Play the fool and ask your partner whether s/he has found something interesting online. You can even be ironic. Say something like: "What's up? Are you stalking one of your co-workers on Facebook?"

Since every question requires an answer, s/he'll provide some sort of explanation. If s/he says "I'm actually reading the news" or "I've just found a cool game," state that you want to check it out too.

S/he's Obsessed with Selfies

Snapping regular selfies could be a sign of infidelity.

It might indicate that something is going wrong in your relationship. Unless your partner's selfie habits have always been out of control, it's time to get worried about it.

People who are constantly posting selfies online experience more conflict with their romantic partners. Selfie obsession may be a sign that your partner is feeling lonely or unhappy. Or maybe s/he's taking selfies to share them with the new love interest. Most people share hundreds of photos with a potential date before meeting in person.

Watch out for naked pictures! When you find sexy images of your partner on their phone, you can be sure s/he's sending them to someone else.

With a few exceptions, nobody takes naked photos of themselves just to make time go by faster. Unlike your partner is a model or fitness competitor, s/he has no reason to pose that way.

Appearance is Suddenly or More Important

Has your partner suddenly become interested in their looks? Is s/he constantly buying new clothes, trying different hairstyles or styling hair differently? If so, s/he's probably trying to impress someone.

Add selfies to the mix and...Voila! Now that your partner is cheating, s/he has a reason to look hot. 

People who are in a long-term relationship don't struggle too much to make an impression. They know their partners love them just the way they are.

S/he's Lost Interest in the Bedroom

If your partner is Tinder cheating on you, s/he's probably thinking about the new date all the time. As a result, s/he may act differently in the bedroom.

When people cheat, they tend to lose interest in their partners. If your partner no longer wants to kiss or cuddle, s/he may have someone else in mind.

Of course, your partner might also be too stressed or too tired to have sex. If s/he’s constantly turning you down, the most probable explanation is that s/he's not into you anymore. Cheating is a possibility.

Once you notice these signs, it's time to do something about it....

What to do if Your Partner is Tinder Cheating on You?

The best thing you can do is to have an honest conversation with your partner. Ask her what s/he really wants and what went wrong in your relationship.

Stay calm and listen to what s/he has to say. Try to figure out why s/he's Tinder cheating in the first place. Perhaps s/he hasn't even met that special person yet, so it's not too late to fix the problem.

In general, women and men cheat on their partners to fill an emotional void. Some are feeling lonely and insecure. Others want to break the routine and experience some excitement. And others are simply not committed to their current partners and want to explore their options.

Infidelity can have many reasons, from the thrill of sexual novelty to boredom. Thus, it's important to determine what made your partner act this way.

Some people cheat on their partners because they cheated on them too. If that's your case, you carry some guilt.

Once you understand the reasons, you can make an informed decision. If you can't trust your partner anymore, it's better to move on. Relationships are based on trust.

Given the circumstances, it's important to look at the bigger picture. Refrain from acting impulsively. Assess your relationship to determine if it's worth fighting for it.

Understand that it's not all about you. Don’t blame yourself entirely for what happened. Your partner made a conscious decision.

Also, don't try to get even. Decide whether cheating is a deal breaker, and then proceed accordingly. Consider spending some time apart from your partner to clear your mind.

Tinder cheating can ruin a relationship. If your partner is unworthy of your love, then let them go. Search for a partner who will value love more than primal urges or fleeting experiences.

I would love to hear your comments or answer any questions you might have about this post.

Yours sincerely,   


Dr. Carissa Coulston, Clinical Psychologist

BSc(Hons), MPsychol(Clinical), PhD, MAPS