It's not too late to rekindle that flame. But it's going to take work. Learn how to make her fall in love with you again in our latest post.

Even the happiest and most successful relationships take a lot of hard work, and anyone who tells you anything to the contrary is certainly not right!

It's natural to experience rough patches as we move through life's ups and downs together. Perhaps your partner isn't as responsive as she used to be, or maybe you've noticed that she's seemed a little distant lately. 

But, as with anything worth fighting for, you get out what you put in. 

If there are signs that your relationship could be in trouble, it's never too late to make the effort to rekindle that flame. 

Here, we show you how to make her fall in love with you again and help get your relationship back on track.  

Listen to What She Says

If you've been together for years, it can be easy to assume that you know what your partner is thinking. But rather than being a sign that you know your partner better than you know yourself, it can actually make you lazy as you tend to stop actually listening to her.  

Women greatly value men who listen to them and appreciate it when you pick up on changes or show that you can sense when something might be wrong. 

What seems to be on her mind lately? If you notice that there's something bothering her, ask questions to show her that you're interested in her thoughts and feelings. She might be having a tough time at work or be worried about one of her friends. 

In fact, you may have picked up on her negative emotions and mistakenly assumed that they were directed at you.

Rather than worrying about how to make her fall in love with you again, you might just need to show her that the man she loves is there to support her. 

Open Up to Her

Remember, good communication is a two-way street so you need to make sure that you're explaining how you feel too. 

If you think that she seems distant or cold, don't be afraid to let her know that it's troubling you. She may not have been aware of it, or it might allow her to speak more openly about what's bothering her too. 

Opening up the communication lines may raise some issues and problems with your relationship to the surface. But, it's better to face problems together head-on than ignoring them. 

And don't be afraid to be vulnerable either. Rather than a sign of weakness, showing your vulnerable side takes courage and reveals your inner strength.

More importantly, reaching out to your partner can help build a stronger connection between the two of you and will reinforce your relationship. 

Make the Everyday Special

Throwing money at the situation won't help if your partner isn't into you as much as she once was. 

But, it doesn't hurt to surprise your partner with messages, gifts and gestures for no other reason than because you wanted to. 

If you hear a song and it reminds you of your partner, let her know. Send her regular photos and messages - whether it's something funny or romantic, it shows her that you're thinking of her. 

Pick up some strawberries and her favorite wine on the way home to enjoy after dinner. And if you're feeling particularly generous, why not spoil her with a beautiful gift

Or you could get up early at the weekend and bring her breakfast in bed. These kinds of simple gestures will show her that you're making the effort and learning how to make her fall in love with you again. 

Put More Effort into Your Physical Appearance

It's all too easy to get comfortable when you're in a long-term relationship. That can mean that you start to make less effort when it comes to your appearance. 

Simple changes to your grooming routine can make you more attractive and appealing to your partner. Keep your nails trimmed and clean, remove any unsightly body hair, and either shave or keep your facial hair neat and tidy. 

And, if you've gained a few pounds over the years then it might be time to start working out. Find an exercise you enjoy and you'll be much more likely to stick to it.

Taking extra care of your appearance will inspire your partner to take more interest in her appearance too, which will certainly help to rekindle those flames.  

Exercise is also a great mood-booster so you're likely to be more positive and optimistic within your relationship.

What's more, exercise is also a great way to get your frustrations out, helping you avoid taking anger about work or the rush hour traffic home with you. 

Have a Regular 'Date Night'

Regular date nights are a great way to put the spark back into your relationship.

Not only do they help you spend more time alone together, they give you both a reason to dress up. And, if your partner is stuck at home with the kids all day, it can really help her to feel sexy again. 

Whether you suggest a candlelit dinner at home for just the two of you or a romantic night out, make a point of spending time alone. This can help to remind you both that you're two consenting adults with a strong mutual attraction, rather than just 'mommy' and 'daddy'. 

But, don't make it a one-off thing. Even if you can only fit in one date night a month, make sure you both put the effort in and dress up for the occasion.

You could even get ready somewhere else and pick up your partner to help recreate the original desire you felt when you were first dating. 

Learn How to Make Her Fall in Love with You Again

Over time, our relationships can suffer as we become complacent and start taking each other for granted.  

Without intending to, you may have stopped putting in the necessary effort to maintain a strong relationship where your partner feels supported, valued and desirable. 

However, it's never too late to show her how much you love her and that you're prepared to work hard and find out how to make her fall in love with you again. 

For more insights into relationships and dating advice, check out our other articles.

I would love to hear your comments or answer any questions you might have about this post.

Yours sincerely,   


Dr. Carissa Coulston, Clinical Psychologist

BSc(Hons), MPsychol(Clinical), PhD, MAPS